Love Conquers Insecurity

By April 16, 2014 February 13th, 2018 Articles, Love, Read All

So you meet a nice guy. On your first date you present the best version of yourself. You want to impress him because you find him attractive and you want to hit it off.  The underlying issue is that you have an insecurity. Whatever that insecurity is, you’re deathly afraid of it being revealed. If the relationship progresses, then it is inevitable; you must reveal it to him, unless of course, you keep it a secret, which you don’t want to do because that would involve deception. So, there’s only two ways to deal with it: 1) you overcome the insecurity on your own through some sort of personal triumph or, if you can’t seem to  get rid of it, 2) Reveal it to him, if he hasn’t discovered it already. I was faced with this very dilemma and I opted for number 2. I couldn’t be deceptive and pretend like my insecurity didn’t bother me. And as much as I tried to get rid of it, it clung to me. So I acknowledge my insecurity. If I hadn’t told him then my relationship would fail to progress. I wanted my relationship to progress. So, I told him. And you know, what? He was very understanding and through our conversation, I came to realize that this “big insecurity” wasn’t so big after all. My worries subsided along with my insecurity. My relationship was able to move forward uninhibited by insecurity or deception or all those other things that come along when fear of vulnerability stunts what could be the greatest love that has ever come your way.


About Marchaan

Marchaan has been a creative writer for over seventeen years and writing professionally for thirteen. Her body of work focuses primarily on the topics of entertainment, love, relationships, self-exploration and coming of age while her passion and interests lie in beauty, cosmetics, current events and pop culture. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in Liberal Studies from California State University Northridge where she minored in Spanish and held concentrations in language and writing. Today, Marchaan resides in the Hollywood Hills where she continues to work on her novel and write short stories and children's books in her free time.

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